It is extremely easy to fall into the trap of feeling guilty for not achieving every goal set or not progressing as much as you would have liked throughout the year. I know that I almost allowed myself to throw a pity party because at times it felt as though I was moving at a caterpillar’s speed, to reach financial stability and other personal goals. I had to reflect and be reminded that this year has been a wild and unpredictable roller coaster for many people worldwide, just due to COVID-19 wreaking havoc. I have learned to not bask in the “would haves” and “could haves,” and instead rejoice and be grateful for all the progress made, for little progress is better than none. I want to challenge my readers to complete these 3 things to help boost enthusiasm for the new year and to provide a clear sense of direction.
10/24/2020 0 Comments
Naturally, humans long for meaningful connections and communication with other people, so when you develop that special bond with someone, whether it be a significant other or friend, it can be hard to admit when the connection is fading. Personally, it was a challenge for me when it came to relationships/friendships ending because I always held high hopes, believing that every connection I made should last forever. Truth be told, some people are only meant to be in your life for a season and that was a hard pill I had to swallow.
We help create toxicity and heartache on ourselves when we fail to acknowledge when someone’s time is up in our lives, secretly justifying why they should stay. I just turned 27 years old this month and no matter how much older I become, it’s always sad to come to terms with and accept the fact that someone was only meant to be in your life for a time period. Sometimes things just go sour with no real explanation, and sometimes people grow apart. No matter the cause or situation, I have learned to trust my discernment on people and let things go without any fuss or fight. If it is meant to be, maybe one day you will reconnect with that person, but for now let us be honest with ourselves and learn to recognize the signs that may point to an ending connection.
“What is meant for you will be for you.” I have heard this saying so much throughout my life, but it really was not until recently that I began to really embody the statement and truly believe it. As previously discussed in older blogs, I battle with anxiety which stems from periods of uncertainty, ultimately leading to self-doubt. There have been times where I deeply pondered and silently asked myself “1. Am I called to do this? 2. Am I cut out to do this? 3. Should I quit?”
In actuality it’s quite human to have these questions run across your mind especially during challenging, uncertain, and uncomfortable times; but it is essential to dispel those thoughts, especially if they start to generate self-doubt and self-pity. I can honestly say that I was improving on challenging and dispelling illogical thought patterns, until I was recently tested in regards to my blog’s progress or lack thereof.
To wake up and be alive is an amazing gift that we sometimes take for granted. I have noticed that at times, it’s so easy to become fixated on some of the smallest things, or to become wrapped up in the messiness and dramatics of the world. Sometimes we get lost in the hustle and bustle that we forget to really take care of ourselves, mentally, physically, and spiritually.
We tend to forget the importance of voicing our needs, wants, and most importantly, taking the necessary steps to protect our energy and inner peace. We have all probably heard the saying “life is too short” a million times (I mean I’ve literally written it all throughout my previous blog posts) and it may seem so cliché, but it’s so true. We must learn to take care of ourselves and live life to the fullest, but also live as stress-free as possible. The older I become, the more aware I am of how essential it is to start practicing and implementing these four steps in order to protect inner peace.
Thank you for an amazing year of reading and being involved in some way, in regards to the start and continuation of this blog. My Cherished Thoughts was simply started to authentically share various issues and situations I have encountered, ultimately hoping to promote self-awareness as well as to encourage positive ways to handle life’s challenges.
This blog has received over 15k views over the year and has been featured on one of the biggest blogging platforms, Thought Catalog. As a way to show my gratitude, I am deciding to give a special gift at random to someone who does the following:
For the one year anniversary of this blog, I am also offering a further look into my mind for readers to learn more about my blogging plans for the future. About a month ago, I welcomed my Instagram followers to ask me some of their blogging questions. Check out the answers to your questions, below.
6/5/2020 0 Comments
A Huge Disclaimer: This is not a blog post to explain what and why we proclaim #BlackLivesMatter, instead of #AllLivesMatter. Furthermore, this is not a blog post to discuss and educate others on white privilege, discrimination, the act of kneeling during the national anthem, systematic racism, etc.
This is not a post for that – well because if you do not understand or get it by now, then I don’t know what to tell you besides look around at the blatant racism and the unique challenges minorities face in this country. With that being said, this post is aimed to encourage a call to action. To help spread the message of what you can do to stand up against police brutality and injustices towards African Americans.
A Little Background
For many generations, African Americans in the United States have faced unequal opportunities, discrimination, prejudices, injustices, and so much more all due to simply being black. Personally, it’s disheartening to know the same country in which my ancestors were forced to come to as slaves and helped build up what it is today, continues to mistreat black people.
Sadly, we are still experiencing racism all by the hands of police officers. Yes, we know that there are always a few “bad apples” in every profession; however there are always consequences for breaking rules and disobeying the ethics of that particular profession. Therefore, these few “bad apples” in the police departments should not be exempt from consequences - for they are not above the law.
A Call to Action
After the murder of George Floyd on May 25, 2020 while in police custody, mass demonstrations have sprung up around the world to draw attention to the ongoing issue of police brutality towards African Americans. In fact, his death is what sparked the creation of this post, because quite frankly enough is enough! I have realized that voicing my thoughts won’t suffice, action is required to reap any hope of change. Below, I have created 7 ways in which you can show your support and fight against injustices towards African Americans.
Historically, protesting has shed light on injustices, ultimately putting pressure on law makers to pass certain laws, and hold people accountable for their wrongful actions. I would encourage those who are looking to find a way to create change to join a protest. However, please be careful and know your rights when participating. If protesting is not your thing, it’s okay – don’t let others make you feel bad for not going out on the frontlines. Please continue to read for other ways that you can help.
2. Use Your Platform
Spread awareness by using your voice through social media to share or post resources and ways people can join the fight towards ending police brutality.
3. Vote. Vote. Vote.
Sometimes I hear excuses such as, “My vote doesn’t count,” “I’m not registered,” “I just moved to a new state” as reasons for missing out on an election. I’d like to encourage my readers to not be blinded by excuses. We need people in office that will stand up and work for black people and other minorities. To be honest, a lot of the times these elections are super close; therefore your vote is needed and really does count. Oh and let me just say this… please be mindful that voting for the president is not enough. To invoke change, it starts locally!
Donating money can also further propel these organizations that are aimed at fighting police brutality and bringing equality for black people. Interested in donating? Check out this list below:
5. Sign Petitions
Here is a list of a couple petitions that you can also sign to show your support
6. Support Black Owned Businesses
Show your support by patronizing at black owned establishments. Spread the word about their establishments to further increase sales. Whether it’s a restaurant, blogging site, clothing boutique, etc, uplift these businesses!
7. Stay Educated
Lastly, please stay abreast to new knowledge, current events, and available resources. Knowledge is power!
I’m taking a different approach for this post by opening up more than ever to share an embarrassing, yet pretty entertaining situation that I found myself in 7 years ago. You've probably guessed it from the title, but that’s right: I’m going to dive in and spill all the tea on how I found myself being contacted by this hit show’s producers because I had been officially catfished – WTF!
Over the past few chaotic weeks, I've had an ample amount of time at home to reflect on my purpose and future goals in life. The federal quarantine regulations put into place to protect human lives by preventing the spread of the coronavirus (COVID-19) are keeping a lot of people at home with time to reflect.
1/21/2020 1 Comment
Let’s face it, we may have all experienced a time where we tried to control the outcome of a situation to the point where it led to stress, fear, or even sabotaging the end result. It took only a whopping 26 years for me to really acknowledge that I could have sabotaged or missed out an opportunity I really wanted because I lacked the full control I so desperately wanted.
I needed to control and plan out every step as well as practice what I’d do or say. I ultimately needed to know for sure what the outcome would be or I’d be too afraid to fully pursue my desires and would instead use my control freakish ways as a mechanism to cover up my true inner emotions.
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