Thank you for an amazing year of reading and being involved in some way, in regards to the start and continuation of this blog. My Cherished Thoughts was simply started to authentically share various issues and situations I have encountered, ultimately hoping to promote self-awareness as well as to encourage positive ways to handle life’s challenges.
This blog has received over 15k views over the year and has been featured on one of the biggest blogging platforms, Thought Catalog. As a way to show my gratitude, I am deciding to give a special gift at random to someone who does the following:
For the one year anniversary of this blog, I am also offering a further look into my mind for readers to learn more about my blogging plans for the future. About a month ago, I welcomed my Instagram followers to ask me some of their blogging questions. Check out the answers to your questions, below.
6/5/2020 0 Comments
A Huge Disclaimer: This is not a blog post to explain what and why we proclaim #BlackLivesMatter, instead of #AllLivesMatter. Furthermore, this is not a blog post to discuss and educate others on white privilege, discrimination, the act of kneeling during the national anthem, systematic racism, etc.
This is not a post for that – well because if you do not understand or get it by now, then I don’t know what to tell you besides look around at the blatant racism and the unique challenges minorities face in this country. With that being said, this post is aimed to encourage a call to action. To help spread the message of what you can do to stand up against police brutality and injustices towards African Americans.
A Little Background
For many generations, African Americans in the United States have faced unequal opportunities, discrimination, prejudices, injustices, and so much more all due to simply being black. Personally, it’s disheartening to know the same country in which my ancestors were forced to come to as slaves and helped build up what it is today, continues to mistreat black people.
Sadly, we are still experiencing racism all by the hands of police officers. Yes, we know that there are always a few “bad apples” in every profession; however there are always consequences for breaking rules and disobeying the ethics of that particular profession. Therefore, these few “bad apples” in the police departments should not be exempt from consequences - for they are not above the law.
A Call to Action
After the murder of George Floyd on May 25, 2020 while in police custody, mass demonstrations have sprung up around the world to draw attention to the ongoing issue of police brutality towards African Americans. In fact, his death is what sparked the creation of this post, because quite frankly enough is enough! I have realized that voicing my thoughts won’t suffice, action is required to reap any hope of change. Below, I have created 7 ways in which you can show your support and fight against injustices towards African Americans.
Historically, protesting has shed light on injustices, ultimately putting pressure on law makers to pass certain laws, and hold people accountable for their wrongful actions. I would encourage those who are looking to find a way to create change to join a protest. However, please be careful and know your rights when participating. If protesting is not your thing, it’s okay – don’t let others make you feel bad for not going out on the frontlines. Please continue to read for other ways that you can help.
2. Use Your Platform
Spread awareness by using your voice through social media to share or post resources and ways people can join the fight towards ending police brutality.
3. Vote. Vote. Vote.
Sometimes I hear excuses such as, “My vote doesn’t count,” “I’m not registered,” “I just moved to a new state” as reasons for missing out on an election. I’d like to encourage my readers to not be blinded by excuses. We need people in office that will stand up and work for black people and other minorities. To be honest, a lot of the times these elections are super close; therefore your vote is needed and really does count. Oh and let me just say this… please be mindful that voting for the president is not enough. To invoke change, it starts locally!
Donating money can also further propel these organizations that are aimed at fighting police brutality and bringing equality for black people. Interested in donating? Check out this list below:
5. Sign Petitions
Here is a list of a couple petitions that you can also sign to show your support
6. Support Black Owned Businesses
Show your support by patronizing at black owned establishments. Spread the word about their establishments to further increase sales. Whether it’s a restaurant, blogging site, clothing boutique, etc, uplift these businesses!
7. Stay Educated
Lastly, please stay abreast to new knowledge, current events, and available resources. Knowledge is power!
I’m taking a different approach for this post by opening up more than ever to share an embarrassing, yet pretty entertaining situation that I found myself in 7 years ago. You've probably guessed it from the title, but that’s right: I’m going to dive in and spill all the tea on how I found myself being contacted by this hit show’s producers because I had been officially catfished – WTF!
Over the past few chaotic weeks, I've had an ample amount of time at home to reflect on my purpose and future goals in life. The federal quarantine regulations put into place to protect human lives by preventing the spread of the coronavirus (COVID-19) are keeping a lot of people at home with time to reflect.
1/21/2020 1 Comment
Let’s face it, we may have all experienced a time where we tried to control the outcome of a situation to the point where it led to stress, fear, or even sabotaging the end result. It took only a whopping 26 years for me to really acknowledge that I could have sabotaged or missed out an opportunity I really wanted because I lacked the full control I so desperately wanted.
I needed to control and plan out every step as well as practice what I’d do or say. I ultimately needed to know for sure what the outcome would be or I’d be too afraid to fully pursue my desires and would instead use my control freakish ways as a mechanism to cover up my true inner emotions.
11/20/2019 0 Comments
About two weeks ago I came across a quote on Instagram that deeply resonated with me, sparking the creation of this post. The quote stated, "…Every time you entertain a relationship with the goal of 'changing his mind,' you're gambling with your feelings."
Sometimes it saddens me to see people force themselves to stay in unhealthy relationships hoping the other person may eventually come around and change. I'll be the first to admit that I’ve been there, and it cost me a piece of my sanity.
When I think about social media, I automatically think of its evolution during my childhood days. From the Myspace days and arguing over who made it into someone’s top 10 friends list, to the creation of Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, etc. Social media has become a huge platform, helping some people develop their brand and increase their business sales, as well as connect with others.
However, just like most things in life, social media has its negative drawbacks as well, sometimes fostering a sense of competition, envy, social media addiction, bullying, and much more. I would be lying to myself if I didn’t admit that at times I have felt some jealousy when viewing the lives of others on social media.
“I can’t wait to be an adult,” said every child or adolescent at some point in their life. Growing up, my friends and I looked forward to being 18 years old–that meant that I would be a full blown adult, and I could do any– and everything I wanted to do. Boy, was I wrong! I don’t know about you, but I was still dependent on my parents in every aspect of my life, and somewhat naive.
Everyone around me seemed to obsess over the idea of becoming an adult, because that equated to pure freedom and endless opportunities. Although that may be true, no one ever prepped me for the realities of being an adult and all of the responsibilities and internal battles I’d face.
Every time I come back into town to attend a family event, I'm constantly asked, “Are you still single? When will you bring home a man? Why are you still single?” I get the same 21 questions from strangers as well, and it’s definitely getting old!
Even on social media, there’s a constant emphasis put on “relationship goals” and being in a happy relationship. In fact, I've found that society places a great deal of pressure on women to get married and have a family by a certain age. Lord forbid you miss that “deadline” because that, my friend, must suggest that there is something wrong with you!
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