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Let’s face it, we may have all experienced a time where we tried to control the outcome of a situation to the point where it led to stress, fear, or even sabotaging the end result. It took only a whopping 26 years for me to really acknowledge that I could have sabotaged or missed out an opportunity I really wanted because I lacked the full control I so desperately wanted.
I needed to control and plan out every step as well as practice what I’d do or say. I ultimately needed to know for sure what the outcome would be or I’d be too afraid to fully pursue my desires and would instead use my control freakish ways as a mechanism to cover up my true inner emotions.
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About two weeks ago I came across a quote on Instagram that deeply resonated with me, sparking the creation of this post. The quote stated, "…Every time you entertain a relationship with the goal of 'changing his mind,' you're gambling with your feelings."
Sometimes it saddens me to see people force themselves to stay in unhealthy relationships hoping the other person may eventually come around and change. I'll be the first to admit that I’ve been there, and it cost me a piece of my sanity.
When I think about social media, I automatically think of its evolution during my childhood days. From the Myspace days and arguing over who made it into someone’s top 10 friends list, to the creation of Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, etc. Social media has become a huge platform, helping some people develop their brand and increase their business sales, as well as connect with others.
However, just like most things in life, social media has its negative drawbacks as well, sometimes fostering a sense of competition, envy, social media addiction, bullying, and much more. I would be lying to myself if I didn’t admit that at times I have felt some jealousy when viewing the lives of others on social media.
“I can’t wait to be an adult,” said every child or adolescent at some point in their life. Growing up, my friends and I looked forward to being 18 years old–that meant that I would be a full blown adult, and I could do any– and everything I wanted to do. Boy, was I wrong! I don’t know about you, but I was still dependent on my parents in every aspect of my life, and somewhat naive.
Everyone around me seemed to obsess over the idea of becoming an adult, because that equated to pure freedom and endless opportunities. Although that may be true, no one ever prepped me for the realities of being an adult and all of the responsibilities and internal battles I’d face.
Every time I come back into town to attend a family event, I'm constantly asked, “Are you still single? When will you bring home a man? Why are you still single?” I get the same 21 questions from strangers as well, and it’s definitely getting old!
Even on social media, there’s a constant emphasis put on “relationship goals” and being in a happy relationship. In fact, I've found that society places a great deal of pressure on women to get married and have a family by a certain age. Lord forbid you miss that “deadline” because that, my friend, must suggest that there is something wrong with you!
I remember it like it was yesterday, rushing to the hospital because I just knew something serious was wrong with me. During my last year of graduate school, I would experience sporadic episodes of insomnia, shortness of breath, and chest tightness.
Before applying and getting accepted into graduate school, I would hear these crazy stories and see funny memes depicting the intensity and high stress level that graduate school can bring…and boy were they correct! Don’t get me wrong, graduate school was an amazing time, enabling me to hone in on my social work career; however it was also the test of all test, ultimately becoming an eye opener to an important lesson – letting go.
Hi everyone! My name is Cherish and I would like to thank you for taking the time to visit my new blog. “My Cherished Thoughts” is simply an honest reflection of personal challenges faced, aiming to promote self-improvement through the utilization of self-awareness.
After leaving my small town to embark on an amazing eye-opening adventure at Louisiana State University, the brim reality of life's ups and downs hit me like a ton of bricks. This is truly the time period in my life where I was taught monumental lessons, sparking the creation of this blog.
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