How to Eliminate Self-Doubt: What is Meant for you will be for you

“What is meant for you will be for you.” I have heard this saying so much throughout my life, but it really was not until recently that I began to really embody the statement and truly believe it. As previously discussed in older blogs, I battle with anxiety which stems from periods of uncertainty, ultimately leading to self-doubt. There have been times where I deeply pondered and silently asked myself “1. Am I called to do this? 2. Am I cut out to do this? 3. Should I quit?”
 
In actuality it’s quite human to have these questions run across your mind especially during challenging, uncertain, and uncomfortable times; but it is essential to dispel those thoughts, especially if they start to generate self-doubt and self-pity. I can honestly say that I was improving on challenging and dispelling illogical thought patterns, until I was recently tested in regards to my blog’s progress or lack thereof.

Due to low engagement and feeling as though people were no longer interested in reading my blog, I started to think that I should just give up blogging. Then out of nowhere, I began to receive signs from God that I should not only continue, but that this is something I am destined to do. To my surprise, other local well known Dallas blogs started reaching out to me stating that they liked my blog and would like to feature one of my posts on their website. I could not believe it! I was not only exposed to a bigger blogger population, but it also afforded me the opportunity to attract and expand my audience.
 
Furthermore, this occurrence motivated me to change the pessimistic perspective I was holding, and replace it with a more optimistic lens. By doing so, I was able to challenge these three questions: “1. Am I called to do this? 2. Am I cut out to do this? 3. Should I quit?”

1. Am I called to do this?
 
Although I have a passion and drive for writing and sharing advice to increase personal development, I began to have the thought that maybe I wasn’t called to do this, after seeing a plummeting in my blog’s engagement.  For example I noticed that I had become more focused on numbers and was not realizing that there were people reaching out, thanking me for how relatable a post was. Focusing on the impact, no matter if it was big or small, is what helped me to see that I am doing the right thing and was called to do this.
 
It’s quite normal to get discouraged, but it’s important to not adapt this thinking long term.  If you are questioning if you were called to do something, dig deep within and ask for guidance from God. Also use the time to reflect on the positive impact you have made thus far and revisit why you started the hobby or job in the first place.
 
2. Am I cut out to do this?
 
Have you ever found yourself saying “why me?” Well, my counteractive statement to that is why not you? When certain things do not go the way we envision, it can become easy to get wrapped up into questioning if you’re cut out for the job, but it’s essential to fight against this potentially negative thought. I have also learned that prayer, a solid plan, and consistency, can go a long way to feeling empowered and as though you can take on any challenge or task.
 
3. Should I quit?
 
The answer is NO! Especially when you know that whatever it is that you have decided to do, is your passion. It can become frustrating when we don’t see the results that we so desperately hoped for, but that is when you must go back to the drawing board. Begin to explore areas in which you can improve in. For instance, you could be failing to see high engagement or consistent sales in a business due to a lack of quality advertising and email promotion. Remember that prayer, developing a solid plan, and remaining consistent are three important factors for seeing growth and increasing motivation to continue through.
 
Although the road my not be easy or predictable, remain steadfast in your passion.  But most importantly give yourself grace! I am rooting for you!

I Want to Hear From You!
Have you ever questioned if you should give up doing something that you’re passionate about? How have you worked past engaging in self-doubt?  Please drop a comment below! XOXOXO