10/24/2020 0 Comments
Naturally, humans long for meaningful connections and communication with other people, so when you develop that special bond with someone, whether it be a significant other or friend, it can be hard to admit when the connection is fading. Personally, it was a challenge for me when it came to relationships/friendships ending because I always held high hopes, believing that every connection I made should last forever. Truth be told, some people are only meant to be in your life for a season and that was a hard pill I had to swallow.
We help create toxicity and heartache on ourselves when we fail to acknowledge when someone’s time is up in our lives, secretly justifying why they should stay. I just turned 27 years old this month and no matter how much older I become, it’s always sad to come to terms with and accept the fact that someone was only meant to be in your life for a time period. Sometimes things just go sour with no real explanation, and sometimes people grow apart. No matter the cause or situation, I have learned to trust my discernment on people and let things go without any fuss or fight. If it is meant to be, maybe one day you will reconnect with that person, but for now let us be honest with ourselves and learn to recognize the signs that may point to an ending connection.
1.Conversations Feel Forced
Have you found yourself noticing a shift in your conversation? It may seem as though the most endless and meaningful conversations you once held have now been filled with nothing but awkward silence as if there is just nothing to talk about. If the conversation has turned dry where it seems like you are fishing to find things to talk about or catch up on, it may be time to move on.
2.Reminiscing on the Past
There probably was a time when it was so easy to make plans with that person, with you always seeing them apart of your future. However, now it may start to feel as though most of your conversations revolve around memories of the past and how things use to be. It begins to feel challenging to even get together and set plans that once were so easy to create and follow through with.
3.They Don’t Clap for your Accomplishments
This is a big one that is very noticeable, but it could be time to let go when they stop clapping for you. It may be time to step back if you notice that they seem distant when it comes to you sharing your accomplishments. It starts to feel as though they do not wish to know the details of what your future plans may be.
4.They Constantly Question You
When it starts to feel like everything you do is wrong, it could be time to let go. It may start to feel as though there is nothing you can do to make this person feel happy and secure in where they stand with you. They begin to question new people you meet, or the life decisions you make, forcing you to constantly try to appease them and remind them of their place. This can become extremely exhausting and very unhealthy, which will only lead to a big wedge.
5.You Don’t See the Value Anymore
We tend to want to hold on to things that we value, but when there is no real purpose anymore, you may start to view to connection with that person differently. If you feel more at peace without them in your life and honestly cannot see what real meaning they bring, then it’s time to reconsider their place in your life.
It’s difficult to acknowledge when someone’s time may be up in your life, but I promise its not the end of the world. Somethings just don’t last forever and end up running its course. Overall, I have learned that an ending to one thing can bring new insight and clarity as well as a brand-new beginning.
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