Every time I come back into town to attend a family event, I'm constantly asked, “Are you still single? When will you bring home a man? Why are you still single?” I get the same 21 questions from strangers as well, and it’s definitely getting old!
Even on social media, there’s a constant emphasis put on “relationship goals” and being in a happy relationship. In fact, I've found that society places a great deal of pressure on women to get married and have a family by a certain age. Lord forbid you miss that “deadline” because that, my friend, must suggest that there is something wrong with you!
Sarcasm aside, I definitely want to get married and have a family, but I understand that timing is everything. I'm in no rush; however, the world seems to be. Sometimes I feel like being single is frowned upon or depicted to be lonely or depressing. The reality is that being single can foster so much individual growth, equipping you to become a better person for your potential mate.
Don’t get me wrong, I have had moments where I felt like I was being punished or was, in a sense, cursed. I wanted to throw myself a pity party, and I'd get upset about guys messing over me. But lately I’ve been working on changing my perspective. I wasn’t being punished; instead, some of my choices in men were my own fault. At times, I simply chose to ignore the red flags.
Most importantly, I have realized that it is just not my time to be in a relationship. That may very well be the same for you too. You can utilize this period in your life to focus on improving your personal development and shaping your future.
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Remember, this is not an awful or sad season. Yes, there are times when I wish I could have that companionship, but I am perfectly content with being single for now! Do not allow social media, friends, family, or strangers cloud your outlook and experience as a single person. Life is what you make of it, no matter your relationship status!
*This blog was posted on Thought Catalog, and you can check it out here.*
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